Stop Thinking about What Comes Next. Be Present
I have an annoying trait.
Oh scratch that, I have more than one annoying trait. I’ll probably share some more soon enough, but let’s talk about one today.
I don’t know how to be present. There, I said it.
I really am bad at it. I’m constantly thinking about what next, every damn time. I like to know what comes next. I like to plan, predict and feel like I’m in control (control freak problems). What’s more stressful is how I channel thoughts and energy into thinking and overthinking and over planning.
I’ve been working on it though. 3 years now and counting, but every now and then, I still find myself seeping back into this same old habit. Sometimes what’s toxic about this is me holding back from enjoying the now.
I’m not sure why I do it, and even though I know I’m not alone, it’s not enough to justify this habit. I’m desperately trying to unlearn it.
Every now and then, life experiences jolt me out of my bubble and remind me to stop thinking I’m in control. Today, I’m pointing out you and I to stop overthinking, just be present and enjoy the moment.
There’s a quote that I’m reminded of as I write this.
Beware of Destination Addiction. The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next plans, the next job, the next big idea, the next feature, the next investment/funding, the next accelerator or even the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.
Do you have an annoying trait too? Let’s hear it and hug it out :)
I so agree!
I guess we think enjoying a phase means you are not aspirational. Maybe it's all this comfort zone talk.