You’ve probably heard or read that “Men apply for a job when they meet only 60% of the qualifications, but women apply only if they meet 100% of them”.
This study was definitely talking about me, not just job-related but in other areas. I’ve found that sometimes I can’t seem to get pass second-guessing myself or wondering if I deserve some things. That’s why I’m a big supporter of people and doing things afraid.
When my partner and I started house-hunting 2 years ago, we decided we were going to look out for 2-bed apartments. We checked out a few places within our desired location, but they just didn’t work for us. So we decided to increase our budget and finally settled for a 3-bed apartment.
I spent the next 2 months second guessing our decision, wondering if the apartment was too big for just the two of us, and worrying what our parents would think of us (“start small”, they had advised).
I had also forgotten that “small” was relative and it didn’t necessarily mean be uncomfortable. I had to undergo a complete mind shift that I was deserving of this new space, and when we found out we were having a baby, I realized we were indeed deserving of all this space.
That’s the thing with imposter syndrome, it’s so unnerving, rattling our minds and making us ask questions. The weirder thing is it happens to the best of us. Did you know that Maya Angelou also went through it - doubting that she had earned her accomplishments even after writing several books and bagging awards. So if you can’t shake off feelings that your ideas and skills aren’t worthy of attention, you’re not alone.
It’s okay to feel unsure sometimes, just don’t wallow in self-doubt for too long. Remind yourself that you’re deserving of better, and that’s on that.
I wrote some tips to overcome impostor syndrome, and here’s an all time TED talk I absolutely recommend.
Today’s #NoteToSelf is from Mel Robbins:
“It’s not just you. No one knows it all, everyone is just figuring it out as they go along. Including me.”
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This is so 😍 beautiful. Thank you for writing this. This thing called Imposter syndrome shows up in every area of our lives like a hawk. It presents itself in our thoughts and we begin to second guess if we are 💪 worthy of the tables we sit on especially when it is new. Whether its a new job, a new business, a new house,
a new baby , a new adventure
......... a new thing ✨️ , it is sometimes the loudest voice in our heads as we chart "an unfamiliar territory". We have to tell the voice to shut up and remind ourselves that we are deserving of this TABLE, this new space. We have got to confidently sit in it, walk in it, stand in it, roll in it , bask in it, learn in it, dance in it, relax in it and rejoice in it. The most amazing thing about the Imposter syndrome is its not just you, everyone experiences it.